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190-Why You Shouldn’t Be Too Picky Choosing a Filipina to Marry

190-Why You Shouldn’t Be Too Picky Choosing a Filipina to Marry

January 24, 2022

Men from all over the world have sought to marry a Filipina due to her beauty and more traditional values, myself being one of them. At some point, we have to pull the trigger and decide on the lucky one, but that can be agonizing. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea, where I’d like to help men who are where I used to be, by sharing what I have learned about seeking, finding, and living with a Filipina wife. I have four ways of pickiness today to share with you, and more in a subsequent podcast because there are a lot of ways to be too picky.

International dating presents a problem, albeit a good one, that is lacking with US sites for example, and that is that the women in the Philippines actually want to get married! Whereas it is difficult to get any attention on the US sites, internationally you actually will have options and have to make a choice. That’s good right? Yes, but the problem is how to decide on the finalists, and how to pick the winner. I will link a playlist on internet dating for you to learn about this process with a Filipina, so that in today’s podcast I can focus on being too picky.

I have gone to the store and stood there looking at all the different types of toothpaste, thinking why can’t I make up my mind, they’re all good, just pick one. It is much more challenging when confronted with the task of narrowing down a list of quality Filipinas. A guy should be selective, just not too picky, because that will hinder his progress and use up time that could be spent petitioning this woman from the Philippines to be his wife.

Assuming a person’s “must haves” have been met, here are some thoughts on why a man might be too picky and what he can do about it.

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Internet dating playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAEFqvFM7pOwCJQuyPdvK5sH

Questions to ask playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAFnDvCj7c8Z-TWHjtOaly-C

Chemistry https://youtu.be/-WMt5XXs4YU

189-Can You Be Your Filipina’s Hero? Here are 4 Possible Ways

189-Can You Be Your Filipina’s Hero? Here are 4 Possible Ways

January 21, 2022

There are two ways to look at this question.  One is can you be a hero to your Filipina and the other is Can YOU be your Filipina’s hero. The line about heroics comes up now and then and I wanted to talk about that today with four possible ways.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for all kinds of talk about foreigner and Filipina relationships, to help those men thinking about pursuing a Filipina. 

Can you be a hero to your Filipina?-Do men want to be a hero to a Filipina? I should restrict my comments to those men who sincerely want a Filipina for the right reasons and want to marry them. In order to be hero, often in the movies it is a single act of heroism, that defines one as being a hero. It might have involved more than a little time, but the sentiment is someone is a hero now.

Here is how I define what this hero concept is all about.  I think it is about a man wanting to marry a Filipina and give her the type of life she isn’t likely to have if she does not marry a foreigner.

Laying the Foundation of your Filipina marriage Playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAHAUHXbKwu4EhEVdv55vO74

Help with Harmony Playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAGcbSIxRet92fOtSeYRVOf-

How to earn your Filipina wife’s respect Playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAFFKSKBlxZh1gwNdLagWqf0

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Who is the prize, the foreigner or the Filipina? https://youtu.be/nhOkxWwK10Y

188-Things Men Find Unattractive about Women that Filipina’s Don’t Do

188-Things Men Find Unattractive about Women that Filipina’s Don’t Do

January 17, 2022

I came across an article I will share with you in the description box, called 10 things men find unattractive about women. It made me think, what do men usually say about Filipinas, women from the Philippines? If you are looking for a beautiful Filipina, Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I give insights I have learned, since being married to my Filipina wife since May of 2015. I will list the unattractive features mentioned in the article, and supply my observations regarding Filipinas.

A disclaimer for this-You must find a Filipina with character in order to have a successful marriage. I have mentioned this before in other podcasts. Many of us are smitten by the lovely charm of a Filipina. See if you agree with the points in the linked article.

http://wmnlife.com/beauty-fashion/10-things-men-find-unattractive/10

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187-Your Money Isn’t Enough For a Filipina

187-Your Money Isn’t Enough For a Filipina

January 10, 2022

This is a series called Straight talk to western men about Filipinas. The last time I talked about the man’s requirement, in my opinion, to support his Filipina wife’s family either by allowing her to work to send money home to them, or by offering to help himself. Today I will continue in that vein with a topic called Your money isn’t enough for a Filipina.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond. I want to help a foreign man to be equipped to pursue a Filipina for marriage.

I want to be honest with the men about things they might have heard, some of which are from disgruntled guys and are naturally going to have a negative connotation. I have been married to a Filipina since May 10, 2015 and continue to learn about my wife and Philippine culture.

I hope if you saw the last video to this series, that you understand where I am coming from.  Having said that, I hope it isn’t a startling revelation that your money isn’t enough to coast through a relationship with a Filipina who has left everyone and everything behind.  I will link a video in the description box called “Who is the prize, the foreigner or the Filipina?” I think it is important to respect what the Filipina experiences when she leaves the Philippines to immigrate overseas.

The reason I am making this podcast is to ensure that the foreign man doesn’t assume that he can help her family or allow her to send large amounts of money back home, then sit back and rest on his laurels.  That won’t sustain the relationship and you can take that to the bank (oops, another pun). No one wants to be seen as a money machine.  The next time someone tells you that as long as you give her the money that she wants, she will be happy with you, here is some food for thought.

She marries the foreign man that she thinks is going to be kind to her, so be kind to her. She will want you to include her in key decisions, she will want you to ask her about her day, how she is doing. It is helpful to ask her about her family and to learn their names. She will want to be allowed to learn different things by trial and error, she might even want to learn to drive, and unless there is a reason for her not to, I think she should.

Doctors Gary and Barb Rosberg surveyed over 700 couples and report these as the top needs for women in marriage. I will use this to make my point of the type of qualities that will be needed to ensure a lasting marriage.

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Who is the prize, the foreigner or the Filipina? https://youtu.be/nhOkxWwK10Y

https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/5-love-needs-of-men-and-women

http://www.hisneedsherneeds.com/his-needs-her-needs-list.html 

186-Monetary Help to the Filipina’s Family IS a Requirement

186-Monetary Help to the Filipina’s Family IS a Requirement

January 5, 2022

This podcast is about the frequently despised topic of sending money back home to support the Filipina’s family in the Philippines. Here, I will take the position that this is not only appropriate, but a requirement. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond the Sea and Love Beyond The Sea on YouTube for tips and advice on dating and marrying a Filipina and be sure to share this if you know someone else who has similar interests.

Someone will say “Aha, so you are admitting that the ONLY reason she married you was for your money, you’re busted!” I think it is healthy to accept that the main objective she has in marrying a foreign man is to provide help for her family who may be living in poor conditions.  That’s one side of the coin (no pun intended). Here is where the foreign man needs to be practical and unemotional. You were chosen or will be chosen, because you can help her and her family, by allowing her to work and even helping yourself. Why am I telling you this?  Isn’t this channel supposed to be encouraging men to seek and marry Filipinas?

It sure is. I am not going to sit here and say “Oh no, it is not a requirement to allow your Filipina wife to send back a good deal of her hard-earned money to help her family.”  I think it is a requirement if you are concerned about the health of your marriage! If you understand that her main objective in marrying a foreign man is to provide help for her family, then you shouldn’t have any trouble accepting that she is required to send money back home. I want you to brace for this inevitability. She also wants a nice man and is willing to bypass other options in the Philippines. Consider what you are getting with a Filipina wife.

You should know that a Filipina who has been responsible to help her family in the past, is very probably going to feel immense pressure to continue to do so, for who knows how long. You may feel strongly opposed to that familial pressure, but there is nothing you can do about it. To properly understand your wife, it is necessary to allow her to fulfil her duty to her family, because she is more or less burdened to do so. Deciding beforehand that you will not allow her to help at all would end the relationship promptly. Listen to the Podcast for more here on Love Beyond The Sea.

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185-A Filipina’s Parents Don’t Always Want Her to Marry a Foreigner

185-A Filipina’s Parents Don’t Always Want Her to Marry a Foreigner

January 2, 2022

I have started a playlist on my YouTube channel called Straight talk to western men about Filipinas to talk briefly about some aspects of a foreigner Filipina relationship that are overlooked. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I have started a channel to provide encouragement and help to men seeking a relationship with a Filipina leading to marriage. You should go where you’re wanted, for me, that was the Philippines.

Have you considered how a Filipina’s parents might feel about her daughter marrying a foreigner?  It is possible that some families encourage this, which is unfair to the Filipina because she is not allowed to pursue a Filipino.  The family sees the foreigner as a way out of poverty or at least a way to put themselves in a much better position.  In this case the Filipina is being used.  Obviously, this is not a good choice for the foreign man because it isn’t of her own will and there may be more pressure than usual from her family to get money from her husband. Listen to the podcast for some reasons why you should not assume a Filipina's parents will be so willing to "let her go".

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184-Filipinas are Not Docile and Submissive

184-Filipinas are Not Docile and Submissive

December 29, 2021

I am making a playlist called Straight talk to foreigner men about Filipinas on my YouTube channel that will contain short videos and some might make the foreign man cringe.  You might wonder why I would do that when I want to help men find a Filipina to marry.  I do want that, but I don’t want there to be any surprises.  Marriage to a Filipina is hard work like with anything else.  I want to clear the air of some misconceptions about Filipinas, that you’ll need to know before trying to find one, and how to handle it. 

Please subscribe to Casting Beyond the Sea for help for foreign men looking to marry a Filipina. I married a Filipina in 2015.

Filipinas are not naturally docile and submissive. Men have heard about Asian women being submissive to their husbands, so the thought is that he will be on easy street with a Filipina, and she will be at his beck and call and do everything he wants her to do.  That would be a big mistake. She might even think she is submissive, but it might not be to the degree the foreign man has in mind. 

I wanted a submissive wife, as I have mentioned before, the Bible instructs a wife to be submissive to her husband for the good of the marriage, however, it is my observation that this is a challenge to most women, even if they say they want to be a submissive wife.

You might have heard that a Filipina wants to take good care of her husband, is a good lover, likes to avoid conflict, is quiet and soft spoken.  While that may be true, it doesn’t mean she is docile and submissive. Why should you know this?  Because you would be severely disappointed when you find out she has a strong will, which probably comes from needing to learn how to survive and get things done. Listen to the podcast for why I feel this way.

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183-Your Children Must Respect Your Younger Filipina Wife

183-Your Children Must Respect Your Younger Filipina Wife

December 27, 2021

The topic of a foreigner looking for a young wife is very common anymore that it’s really not a big deal. He wants her for her youth, beauty, companionship, fun, energy and so on, but in cases where the foreign man has children about the same age as the Filipina, it is likely to be a big deal to the children. I am about to share a hard-line approach with you. I will build up to it, I am going to break it to you slowly.

Maybe I shouldn’t. You can always correct me if you think I am wrong. I can always delete this podcast. I have watched enough “90-day fiancé” shows to know that sometimes a man will get grief from his relatives. Sometimes they seem genuinely concerned, other times they seem unwilling to accept his decision no matter what.

I want to express my thoughts on how to deal with this, so be prepared to leave comments as I expect there to be a lot of dissent.  Since the backbone of this channel is discussing anything that pertains to a foreigner’s relationship with a Filipina, I must have the spine to not avoid a topic that isn’t going to please everyone. I am not here to entertain you; I am here to prepare you. I should probably add this video to the Controversial Collection playlist for Love Beyond The Sea on YouTube.

While my sentiments make perfect sense to me, and I admit I don’t have children, this is how I feel about it. I am open to hearing what others say about this, who have dealt with unhappy family members. I may be wrong, you know? This is how I feel about it right now. I tend to draw lines and go all-in to what matters to me. If you disagree, let me know. These are my impressions.

I am able to imagine how children might feel about me dating or marrying a young woman approximately their age.  I know how people on the outside of the family view a situation like this, and it is about the same as someone inside the family.  I was looking for a younger woman from the Philippines when it was painfully clear I wasn’t getting anywhere in my own country. I have never felt any shame about it, and I have no trouble talking about it, I know it is possible to desire such a woman to marry with honorable intentions, and NOT do it to treat her as a sex object.

While other men can attest to the same thing, and perhaps even their own children would support him, that isn’t always the case. When that happens, there exists a situation where the children will let their father know that they disapprove of his choice of a wife.  They might be concerned about being ridiculed by their friends and people that know them. They might be worried that they just lost out on their family inheritance. They could just not want the Filipina, in even a very small way, to make it seem like she is taking the place of their mother.

It’s true that a man wanting a younger wife is nothing new, you don’t hear as much about the behind-the-scenes struggle that can happen between the siblings and their own father. Here is where I am ready for some backlash.

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182-8 Things That Will Test Your Patience With a Filipina

182-8 Things That Will Test Your Patience With a Filipina

December 19, 2021

A lot of men have married a woman from the Philippines and many are trying to follow suit. We hope for companionship, sex, happiness, purpose in life. That can be had, but likely will require a large amount of patience.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for help for the foreigner in his relationship with a Filipina.

I have been married since May of 2015 and would consider my marriage a good one but any marriage to even the best woman will not be without strife, quarreling, differences of opinion. The very first description of love in 1 Corinthians 13 is love is patient. That tells me it is of utmost importance.  If I say I love my wife but am not patient with her, then I don’t love her. The need for patience is mentioned often in the 870-some videos I have on Love Beyond The Sea.

If you are like me and have high expectations for your relationship or your marriage with a Filipina, patience is going to need to be a virtue.  Marriage might be the environment where patience is needed the most. In my experience, here are situations patience will be tested. I will start with the most obvious one-you! Listen to the podcast for all eight.

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181-Filipino Family Importance is Growing on Me

181-Filipino Family Importance is Growing on Me

December 18, 2021

It was probably after I married my Filipina in 2015 that I began to pick up on the idea that family is important in the Philippines. I knew basically nothing about the Philippines when I married my wife, not even where to find it on a map. I wanted a good wife and I got one! Today’s podcast is about the impact the significance of family in the Philippines has had on me. 

Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea and as time goes by, we will cover as many things together as possible that pertain to a foreigner and Filipina relationship. Feel free to leave a comment and to get notifications for upcoming videos. Family is a top priority to a Filipino, so it’s helpful to learn what you can about this dynamic as you look for a Filipina to marry.

The family unit in the Philippines is where my wife could be understood, accepted, protected, supported, made to feel secure and loved. There are families in America where I am, that have similar qualities but it may be that Filipinos take it all to a higher level. Here are some ways Filipino family importance is growing on me.

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