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197 Guys Don’t Get Set in Your Ways

197 Guys Don’t Get Set in Your Ways

March 14, 2022

I try to share with others what I have learned in almost 7 years being married to my Filipina wife. Today I want to talk about why the foreigner, who may be a lot older than the Filipina, should not become set in his ways. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I want to be as helpful as I can to a man looking for a wife from the Philippines. Being set in your ways will not help your relationship with anyone, perhaps especially a woman from the Philippines where people have to be able to adapt.

For many years people have thought I was regimented, and being single until I was 53 when I married my dream Filipina, if anyone was set in their ways, it was me. While I was single it didn’t matter to me. Since I had been unable to get a relationship going, I was content to do what I did, without much variance. That was fine with me but something that needs to slowly be changed, not necessarily eliminated, when married, especially to a Filipina.

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196-Is it Time for a Social Media Fast with your Filipina Wife?

196-Is it Time for a Social Media Fast with your Filipina Wife?

March 7, 2022

This is an idea for those who are frustrated that social media might be interfering with their relationship. I want to suggest the idea of getting away from the internet and social media for one day a week, and how it will help your marriage.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea and Love Beyond The Sea and I will offer help for the foreigner who is in or would like to be, in a relationship with a Filipina. Get notifications by clicking on the bell then clicking on ADD to complete the process. Why would a social media fast by the Filipina be good for couples, even for just one day?

Normally, the Filipina has had more experience with social media, it is more ingrained in her life, but there are men who use it a lot, or instead, get caught up in the internet.  The internet would be my equivalent of social media compared to my wife. If this is true of you, it may be helpful to encourage your Filipina to take one day off a week of social media, and you will lead the way of sacrificing a day of internet searching, YouTube, you name it. For a woman, Facebook, Instagram and who knows what else is out there, can be a temptation for her to ignore her husband, as women tend to be more social than men.

I try to avoid giving advice to women, such as the Filipinas in a relationship with a foreigner. I think that’s best left to other women. In this case, I am giving the men food for thought. If they think that encouraging the Filipina in their life to avoid social media for a day a week would improve their relationship, they can free up some time themselves. This would show her that he takes their relationship seriously.

If she has immigrated to you, she will likely need a lot of time on social media to stay connected to friends and family, but you will know if she is spending too much time on it. Or if you are friends and you’d like to get closer but feel social media is getting in the way, here is what you could say to her.

https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/life-issues/challenges/media-and-entertainment/4-ways-to-avoid-being-a-social-media-marriage-casualty/ 4 Ways to Avoid Being a Social Media Marriage Casualty

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195-The Best Marriage Advice I Received from a Principal Sponsor

195-The Best Marriage Advice I Received from a Principal Sponsor

February 28, 2022

It is always best before any major decision to get good advice. A pair of our principal sponsors at our wedding in the Philippines, have become excellent sources of help for me, although I don’t contact them very often, but they are there when we need their help, or their advice. I’m going to share with you what one of them told me, and it is sound advice for anyone marrying a Filipina.

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194-Our Travel Itinerary and Things to Know-Philippines Travel 2022
193-Do Filipinas Talk Less Than Other Women? (Not Tampo)

193-Do Filipinas Talk Less Than Other Women? (Not Tampo)

February 14, 2022

There are many qualities of Filipinas that make them very sought after by western men, I should know because I tried to find a wife in the Philippines, and was finally able to become a married man. Beauty, femininity, love of family, caring, loyal, having traditional values have all been prized by foreign men, but there is one quality you may not have thought about, that maybe should be added to this list. It is not a quality that I possess. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for help for foreign men who look for and marry Filipinas. When the Philippines opens again for tourism, I want you to be prepared to meet the love of your life.

It may even be that with a large age gap she might, might feel like she doesn’t have much in common with the westerner and isn’t comfortable yet talking to him about a lot of things. She might feel that if he is much older, he is a lot wiser and she doesn’t have much to contribute to certain discussions.

My impression from being married to my Filipina wife since May 10 of 2015 and from observing other couples and reading about more, is that generally, a Filipina wife is not characterized as being someone who talks too much. She might be more likely to be accused of singing too much, before talking too much. For a lot of men, this would be a dream come true. I don’t think this applies to her being in the company of other Filipinas, because I notice they tend to have a great time chatting with each other.

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192-10 Signs a Foreigner is Exploiting a Filipina

192-10 Signs a Foreigner is Exploiting a Filipina

February 7, 2022

I have heard more than enough times that when an older foreigner marries a younger Filipina that he is exploiting her, taking advantage of her. I want to talk about this today.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for observations to help with perspectives of a foreigner and Filipina relationship. Is an age gap with a Filipina exploitation? How would anyone know? When the Philippines opens up again, go where you’re wanted and don’t give up trying to find a wife.

I would be naïve to think there isn’t a lot of exploitation going on. It has been for a very long time. This makes for another stereotype in international dating, that the younger women who are willing to marry an older foreigner, are getting exploited, whether they know it or not. Exploitation can go both ways, but since I am a man, I only concern myself with how the man treats the Filipina. I leave the job of advising women to women. I think they are more effective.

My wife is 27 years younger than I am, and if I could marry a younger woman, I thought there were good reasons to do it. I certainly don’t feel like I was exploiting my wife, why is that? I will explain why, then list some ways that some foreign men exploit younger Filipinas. As if it needed to be said, I am against any exploitation from either person.

Intent-If my wanted to exploit my wife, I wouldn’t have married her. Marriage can be risky and will certainly have its share of disappointments.  I wasn’t interested in living with her or using her as a friend with benefits. It wasn’t even a matter of wait and see. From day one with my profile, it was clear my objective was marriage to someone.  That took all of 54 days to accomplish. I wasn’t expecting it that soon, but it was time to prove my intent. I wasn’t interested in looking around for someone better.

Motive-What was I going to do with my Filipina after I married her?  Could I still exploit her then?  Is that why I married her so fast? No, the quicker I could marry her, the quicker she would have a husband that committed to her before he even met her in person, a man who was willing to get to know her more on the backside of marriage than the front. I believed I could best meet her needs and do good to her, in marriage.

Listen to the podcast for more signs of exploitation by a westerner. Obviously, you want to invest yourself in the relationship to get the very best rewards from it.

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191-Being Too Picky Looking for a Filipina Will be Costly

191-Being Too Picky Looking for a Filipina Will be Costly

January 27, 2022

There is so much to say about the idea of being too picky that I simply could not do it in one video so I am continuing that idea here today. While you can’t get to the Philippines as a tourist yet, let’s be prepared for when that does happen.

Here are six additional ways of being too picky. If you are older, I think you’ll need to be less picky than someone who is much younger. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for considerations when looking for a Filipina wife and mostly, how to have a good marriage and stay married. We’ve been married for over six and a half years.

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Internet dating playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAEFqvFM7pOwCJQuyPdvK5sH

Questions to ask playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAFnDvCj7c8Z-TWHjtOaly-C

Chemistry https://youtu.be/-WMt5XXs4YU

190-Why You Shouldn’t Be Too Picky Choosing a Filipina to Marry

190-Why You Shouldn’t Be Too Picky Choosing a Filipina to Marry

January 24, 2022

Men from all over the world have sought to marry a Filipina due to her beauty and more traditional values, myself being one of them. At some point, we have to pull the trigger and decide on the lucky one, but that can be agonizing. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea, where I’d like to help men who are where I used to be, by sharing what I have learned about seeking, finding, and living with a Filipina wife. I have four ways of pickiness today to share with you, and more in a subsequent podcast because there are a lot of ways to be too picky.

International dating presents a problem, albeit a good one, that is lacking with US sites for example, and that is that the women in the Philippines actually want to get married! Whereas it is difficult to get any attention on the US sites, internationally you actually will have options and have to make a choice. That’s good right? Yes, but the problem is how to decide on the finalists, and how to pick the winner. I will link a playlist on internet dating for you to learn about this process with a Filipina, so that in today’s podcast I can focus on being too picky.

I have gone to the store and stood there looking at all the different types of toothpaste, thinking why can’t I make up my mind, they’re all good, just pick one. It is much more challenging when confronted with the task of narrowing down a list of quality Filipinas. A guy should be selective, just not too picky, because that will hinder his progress and use up time that could be spent petitioning this woman from the Philippines to be his wife.

Assuming a person’s “must haves” have been met, here are some thoughts on why a man might be too picky and what he can do about it.

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Questions to ask playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAFnDvCj7c8Z-TWHjtOaly-C

Chemistry https://youtu.be/-WMt5XXs4YU

189-Can You Be Your Filipina’s Hero? Here are 4 Possible Ways

189-Can You Be Your Filipina’s Hero? Here are 4 Possible Ways

January 21, 2022

There are two ways to look at this question.  One is can you be a hero to your Filipina and the other is Can YOU be your Filipina’s hero. The line about heroics comes up now and then and I wanted to talk about that today with four possible ways.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for all kinds of talk about foreigner and Filipina relationships, to help those men thinking about pursuing a Filipina. 

Can you be a hero to your Filipina?-Do men want to be a hero to a Filipina? I should restrict my comments to those men who sincerely want a Filipina for the right reasons and want to marry them. In order to be hero, often in the movies it is a single act of heroism, that defines one as being a hero. It might have involved more than a little time, but the sentiment is someone is a hero now.

Here is how I define what this hero concept is all about.  I think it is about a man wanting to marry a Filipina and give her the type of life she isn’t likely to have if she does not marry a foreigner.

Laying the Foundation of your Filipina marriage Playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAHAUHXbKwu4EhEVdv55vO74

Help with Harmony Playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAGcbSIxRet92fOtSeYRVOf-

How to earn your Filipina wife’s respect Playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAFFKSKBlxZh1gwNdLagWqf0

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Who is the prize, the foreigner or the Filipina? https://youtu.be/nhOkxWwK10Y

188-Things Men Find Unattractive about Women that Filipina’s Don’t Do

188-Things Men Find Unattractive about Women that Filipina’s Don’t Do

January 17, 2022

I came across an article I will share with you in the description box, called 10 things men find unattractive about women. It made me think, what do men usually say about Filipinas, women from the Philippines? If you are looking for a beautiful Filipina, Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I give insights I have learned, since being married to my Filipina wife since May of 2015. I will list the unattractive features mentioned in the article, and supply my observations regarding Filipinas.

A disclaimer for this-You must find a Filipina with character in order to have a successful marriage. I have mentioned this before in other podcasts. Many of us are smitten by the lovely charm of a Filipina. See if you agree with the points in the linked article.

http://wmnlife.com/beauty-fashion/10-things-men-find-unattractive/10

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