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128 No Arms No Legs No Excuses Why Are YOU Still Single?

128 No Arms No Legs No Excuses Why Are YOU Still Single?

June 28, 2021

Today I am going to share some links with you of a remarkable man named Nick Vujicic that should be incredibly inspiring to all men who feel they no longer have hope of getting married. In fact, Nick’s handicap affected far more than relationships. If his story doesn’t inspire you, then you may be beyond hope. He made no excuses. He was born without arms or legs. He, like most of us, realized he wanted and needed a wife.  He is 38 now, having married at 29, and has a lovely wife and four children, thus having achieved his biggest dream. And you? Naturally he has become one of the world’s most sought-after public speakers and I will have links below for you to see videos of his remarkable story, so you can learn from it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ALBGuBHgYM   Nick Vujicic Talks Dating, Marriage & Family 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_sU-Xf--vs  True Love Story in Real Life -Nick Vujicic and His Wife Kanae Miyahara

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Ux5bnQJ6_U  Singleness Life Without Limbs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wBCfxhyEDB0  

Nick Vujicic SPEECH - MOTIVATIONAL VIDEO - 2016| Never give up| Nick's life without limbs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJnJ_fTYofQ  

Inspiring man born without arms or legs - Nick Vujicic | 60 Minutes Australia

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uoswnxiwSbs  

The Prison of Fear | The Nick Vujicic Podcast (Episode 02)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yrol662wNCc Incredible Love Story Nick Vujicic

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7413787/Australian-man-no-arms-legs-shares-inspiring-message-says-life-dreams.html  Article for video upload about Nick Vujicic

127 What Would I Do Without My Filipina Wife?

127 What Would I Do Without My Filipina Wife?

June 23, 2021

On a recent YouTube video on Love Beyond The Sea, I received a nice comment that also wanted to know out of curiosity what I would do if I somehow lost my Amazing Aiza. This was in reference to the obvious devotion I have for her and it is only natural to wonder if I have thought about how I would handle losing her. I hadn’t wanted to give that subject much thought but decided that it would be a good upload topic.

Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea so you can hear a conservative Christian view on how I try to manage my marriage to a woman from the Philippines that I married in only 54 days six years ago. My YouTube channel is called Love Beyond The Sea.

There are a lot of differences from our age to our culture to the distance that separated us, yet I have grown to have stronger feelings for my Filipina wife. My love for her goes beyond how I feel about her, I have an obligation to love her and that has not prevented me from falling more in love with her. She knows I am absolutely crazy about her and there is no doctor’s cure available to treat it. She has even asked me what I would do if something happened to her. It would be my worst nightmare.

First, by losing her I am not thinking about her leaving me through divorce. I am more concerned about something happening to her in an accident or illness. The main thing I can do here, is to pray for her safety, which I do daily. I insisted on the safest car she could buy even though it cost more. I feel like I need to protect her any way I can. Another thing I can do to protect our marriage is to be the best husband I can be to her, and that is the thrust of my videos because and something I want to share that with you.

Listen to the podcast for more difficult things to think about.

https://youtu.be/94GFc_bd0AQ Will I Know My Late Filipina Wife in Heaven? (YouTube)

126 Make Financial Decisions TOGETHER With Your Filipina Wife

126 Make Financial Decisions TOGETHER With Your Filipina Wife

June 22, 2021

The topic of money, or finances, comes up frequently in regards to a foreigner and Filipina relationship, especially marriage. After marriage, many people want to know about a man’s obligation to his Filipina wife’s family. I have covered that in previous videos so today I want to look at a different financial angle, that is about including your Filipina in financial decisions. I think a wise man does that. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea to hear many podcasts about many aspects of foreigner and Filipina life.

This is higher Fil-West Education; I’m going to tell you the things you need to know. The longer I am married the more I can learn and share with other men who want to pursue a Filipina. To pursue you may need to go where you’re wanted (GWYW) or risk nothing changing.

It would be simple to decide that since you have made most if not all of the money that you possess as a married couple, that you and you alone should be the one to make the big financial decisions, and I agree with some of that, but I think it would be a mistake to not learn what your wife thinks.  I believe that a wife should be a helper to her husband, and she is able to provide him a different perspective at times, that he would do well to listen to.  He is still responsible for their decisions and I think he makes better ones when he takes into account what his Filipina has to say. In other words, he needs to listen to her.

What are some examples? Listen to the podcast and I will list some.

 

 

125 Is Common Law Marriage a Valid Marriage?

125 Is Common Law Marriage a Valid Marriage?

June 17, 2021

Since people don’t seem to be marrying like they used to, I wanted to make a podcast about common law marriage since that is what some people consider themselves, but are they really married? Subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I detail what I’ve learned in six years of marriage to an amazing woman I married in less than eight weeks. Some may think our marriage was based on false pretenses, it will never work, age gap and different culture. Well, for some of you, going where you’re wanted is going to be your last chance at marriage, and for others of you (younger men) you could go overseas and find a marriage-minded woman who would even want a family.

On Casting Beyond The Sea where you will learn from my experiences as I honestly talk about the need to pursue hard for a wife so you are not spending your life alone, which is a sad way to go. If I got married, why can’t you? I don’t think I’m chopped liver but I had the hardest time getting married. The Guinness Book of World Records was constantly calling me up to see how long the streak of not having a bonafide girlfriend was. I think all bets must have been off that I would find someone.

 What Makes Someone Married? Why Get Married?  This was the first podcast on what is a valid marriage and the second podcast was What or Who Determines if Someone IS Married? Today I want to talk about common law marriage and I will follow up with some original thoughts of my own. I had heard about this term since I was young and there are some misconceptions about common law marriage, and I am going to use an article from a link in gotquestions.org to talk about it.

https://www.gotquestions.org/common-law-marriage.html

124 What or Who Determines if Someone is Married?

124 What or Who Determines if Someone is Married?

June 14, 2021

Since I talk about making marriage great again and that this is a channel rated 4M for Mature Marriage-Minded Men only, I thought I should go over the fundamentals of who exactly is married and talk about why you should get married as most people need to. Subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I detail what I’ve learned in six years of marriage to an amazing woman I married in less than eight weeks. Is our marriage valid since we got married so quickly? Some people are aghast at Fil-West marriages, like we are doing something wrong. Since it may be out of the norm, does than invalidate it?

There are people who talk like they are married even though they certainly are not married. They have been dating someone for a while and since they feel safe, they might even call each other a spouse or a husband or a wife, but this is a mistake. In a previous podcast called What Makes Someone Married? Why Get Married? I used an article from gotquestions.org to talk about what officially is needed for someone to be considered married.

Today will be about what or who determines if someone is married. I happen to think people who are living together without marriage are not married due to the reality they can pack up and leave for someone better at any time and owe the other absolutely nothing. That doesn’t sound like marriage to me. As you will see, there are also instances where someone might consider themselves married and might even be legally married, yet not in reality. It never used to be this complicated, and in this upload, I want to try to make it clearer.

Listen to the podcast and learn some fundamentals about marriage.

https://www.gotquestions.org/definition-of-marriage.html

https://www.gotquestions.org/woman-helper-suitable.html 

123 What Makes Someone Married? Why Get Married?

123 What Makes Someone Married? Why Get Married?

June 7, 2021

Since I talk about making marriage great again and that this is a channel rated 4M for Mature Marriage-Minded Men only, I thought I should go over the fundamentals of what exactly marriage is in the first place and talk about why you should get married as most people need to. Subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I detail what I’ve learned in six years of marriage to an amazing woman I married in less than eight weeks. Was it worth? You bet it was!

Why get married? Companionship, touch, sex, adventure, someone to explore the world with, having children and raising a family. Living life alone without those things, which has become more common, I think leads to a life that is NOT what God wants for most people. Some people are hard to live with, and marriage will either verify that or they will be forced to make some good changes in their life. Marriage is for mutual blessing.

Some say marriage is just a piece of paper, I sure hope not. Some believe that marriage was made to be broken. Others believe their marital union to be so strong it can only be broken by death and biblical divorce such as adultery or the desertion of a non-Christian. What about arranged marriages? What about using an international dating service? I did, that’s how I found my wife after searching for a mind-boggling 30 years. Even an age gap marriage is a marriage. I think when two people consent to marry, and are not being forced against their wills to marry, then they are married. Just remember God sets up guidelines for how to operate within the framework of marriage.

I’ve even heard of a Philippines vlogger claim to be married then confess that he wasn’t. I think marriage is worth it and we ought to get married as soon as possible so we can enjoy more of it over the course of our life. Listen to the Podcast for more.

https://www.gotquestions.org/marriage-constitutes.html

 

 

122 Platonic Parenting is Desperate and Irresponsible

122 Platonic Parenting is Desperate and Irresponsible

June 4, 2021

https://www.deseret.com/platform/amp/indepth/2021/5/5/22382955/platonic-parenting-how-some-start-families-when-romance-isnt-happening-or-wanted-brad-wilcox

Platonic parenting? How some start families when romance isn’t happening or wanted.

A growing share of adults are looking for partners to help with parenting — but aren’t counting on finding “the one”

Robin Mock is trying to figure out how she wants to become a mom. She knows she wants to have a child — and soon. She’s 43, in the final stages of divorce and keenly aware that her longtime longing for motherhood has not only not happened, but gets less likely with the passage of time.

So the Los Angeles doctor of audiology is looking seriously at her options, from fostering a child to adoption, from sperm donation to the increasingly popular platonic parenting.

The latter option involves prioritizing partnership above romance, so instead of finding someone you hope to spend the rest of your life with in a couples-focused relationship, you look for someone you feel would be a good parent with whom to share raising a child.

While the practice is growing, critics warn that children do best when their family life is stable — and that’s more likely when they’re being raised by their own married parents who are committed to the children and to each other.

“Children benefit from being raised by two stably married parents,” said W. Bradford Wilcox, a scholar at the Institute for Family Studies and director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia. “And, frankly, married parents have enough challenges sticking together for their kids and one another. Without the bond of married love, platonic parents are much less likely to stick together and give kids the stable, loving family that is best for them.”

Platonic parenting, according to Naomi R. Cahn, a law professor and director of the Family Law Center at the University of Virginia School of Law, is an international movement that probably got a boost from the pandemic because dating slowed down and the ticking of the biological clock may have seemed much louder.

Platonic parenting is also more established within gay and lesbian communities, but as a recent Guardian article notes, it’s increasingly popular with heterosexual singles, too. The news site notes tens of thousands of people have signed up on the matching website Coparents.co.uk, while U.S.-based Modamily.com has 30,000 international members, two-thirds of them heterosexual. In the United Kingdom, Pollentree.com has 53,000 members, three-fifths of them women. Some on those sites seek a parenting and romantic partner, others a parenting partner only. The big goal for all members is becoming a parent.

Platonic co-parents could have children a number of ways, including though intercourse, surrogacy, in vitro fertilization and adoption.

People thinking about forming nontraditional parenting partnerships don’t tend to trumpet their decisions, said Patrick Harrison, PollenTree.com founder. “Our members keep a low profile because it’s nobody else’s business. They don’t need to rest of society to tell them it’s a good or bad thing,” he told the Guardian.

As noted, there are lots of opinions on the topic, but the phenomenon is driven by a real yearning for parenthood by both men and women who have not found “the one.”

Mock is more than willing to talk about her efforts to be a mom. And she’s trying to be realistic. She is preparing to be ready if she decides to try having a baby: taking prenatal vitamins, checking her fertility and hormones. She’s read avidly about options and she seeks out folks with experience in different ways to have children, including a potential sperm donor and a woman who fostered then adopted a child.

“I’m prepping, prepping prepping,” she said. “And I still know that rationally, everything could look good but I may not be able to get pregnant or, if I do, maybe I can’t carry a child. The likelihood that I’ll do IVF is pretty low, because it’s ridiculously expensive,” she said. “I think I have a couple of years — maybe until I’m 45 — to figure this out.”

That is only part of the article, listen to the podcast for more and my thoughts on why I think this is wrong.

121-Beauty That Lasts Why My Wife Will Always be Beautiful to Me

121-Beauty That Lasts Why My Wife Will Always be Beautiful to Me

June 3, 2021

Men marry for sex right? That’s not a question really, it’s a fact. Men marry for looks right? Same thing. Always been that way, always will be. Don’t feel guilty if that is you. Here on Casting Beyond The Sea, I want to challenge conventional thought on something as essential as marriage because…somebody needs to. You’ve heard the phrase “after she gets old, trade her in for a younger model”, but what does that accomplish? Well, it establishes that someone is selfish and ungrateful, and those are two marriage and relationship killers you should want to avoid.

You might even say that there are expats living overseas in places like the Philippines where I met my wife, who do that very thing. Use, then toss aside, look for another young beauty. I know that men do that, but real men don’t do that. In this podcast I will explain why my Filipina wife will always be beautiful to me.

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/paulina-porizkova-softness-beauty-164628664.html

120-4 Ways to Only Have Eyes for your Filipina

120-4 Ways to Only Have Eyes for your Filipina

May 31, 2021

You might have heard people say that Filipinas are jealous, more than American women.  That is likely true, because a Filipina isn’t comfortable with the man in her life making small talk with a stranger who happens to be a woman. At first this might seem like an unnecessary irritation, but the more I think about it, the more I think it is a good thing. This is a 4M rated channel-for Mature Marriage Minded Men.

Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for help in a variety of ways for foreign men to have a good relationship, hopefully a great relationship, with a Filipina. After formulating my thoughts, I realized this applied best to the man who can spend time in the presence of his Filipina, so if you don’t have a Filipina in your life, these four points are something to remember as you consider being married to a Filipina.

Looking-The Filipina in your life can not know what is going on in your mind, but it is very important you train yourself to not dwell on other women, other beautiful Filipinas. If you are in the Philippines, you will find very attractive Filipinas all over the place and even if your Filipina girlfriend or wife is not present, it is important to be able to look away. Have you heard of the 3-second rule?

You can’t help notice sensational women out in the world, it wouldn’t be natural or even healthy to look away immediately. To be practical, admire her looks and leave it at that. I don’t know about you, but for me I can remember what someone looked like forty years ago and I only saw them for a few seconds. You don’t need to walk around with a blindfold on, as if you could, or be led by the hand by someone else, just don’t dwell on it. The longer you look, the more likely you will lust.

I know some people say “what does it hurt to look?”, and I won’t spend much time on that but will say this-If you are going to commit to a Filipina or already have, if she isn’t aware that you are completely into her, she will eventually sense that you are not fully ready to commit to her, and then you will have to explain to her one day why you were staring at someone else.

It is only natural to notice of course, the key is to keep it very short. You know why you’re looking, but she won’t quite understand. She wants to be the only one you have eyes for. She will feel your relationship is secure if she doesn’t notice you being “interested” in another woman.  Here are some other ways she notices........

119 What Stresses Out Your Filipina? Make Sure it Isn’t You

119 What Stresses Out Your Filipina? Make Sure it Isn’t You

May 21, 2021

As a husband to a Filipina that I petitioned to come to America, I have been concerned that she is able to adjust well to leaving the Philippines and moving so far away from her family and friends. Some things she will get better at adapting to such as the weather, not being with her family in person, hearing English all the time and having to be on time to her scheduled appointments. However, there will be other things that come up that cause her stress, that she couldn’t have planned.

This video will be about knowing the things that cause stress in her life, what drains her physical and emotional energy, what she deals with that she didn’t anticipate.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea because I want to help foreign men consider dating and marrying a Filipina, and offer what I have learned in being married for six years.  Share the videos with anyone interested in a Filipina wife and as always, your comments are welcomed. What I say works with any woman who isn’t a feminist.

I wasn’t planning on saying this but I decided to, and that is to do all you can to make sure that you are not responsible for causing stress to your Filipina.  You and I are going to cause some stress simply by virtue of being human, but I assume you want to make amends quickly and try to learn from past experiences. I’m not referring to the expected disagreements and doing some things that irritate each other now and then. What I am referring to is that I must be sure not to be the cause of continued vexation to her and either don’t know it bothers her or don’t care. What is the harm in asking her if there is something you do that irritates her?

You will need to adjust to each other but I don’t think that means that neither of you care what kind of impression you make and what kind of impact you have on each other. My wife knows that I am more verbal but that doesn’t mean that I have to hit her with a barrage of comments as soon as she comes home from work. I might be more talkative to someone else than to her and she would appreciate that! I am always working on my patience, and that’s a requirement for a lasting marriage. Asking her to be in videos causes her stress.

Our different personalities can be a cause of stress if one is more laid back the other is more intense. Most of the time, there is probably a big difference between the personality of the husband and the wife. I am definitely more intense and that can scare my wife, who is calmer and milder. I want results now or yesterday; she is more deliberate. You don’t want your sexual differences to exasperate each other. It comes down to communicating to make sure things are okay.

It may be that the pace of life, such as it is in America, will be stressful to her. That is not to say that she didn’t have responsibility and work hard in the Philippines, only that here, it is on a regular, uninterrupted schedule, and workers need to show up on time, all the time. That might be a little different than what she experienced back home. Here we work and try to save and she might have a little trouble adjusting to what sometimes we call “the grind”, working day after day, seemingly just to keep our heads above water.

We have all kinds of bills considering internet, cable, garbage, water, phone, electricity, heat, a lot of taxes, and it can feel like we are working simply to be able to pay for those things. This could prove frustrating for her.  In our case, my wife is very ambitious and has excellent energy but I think she needs me to support her as much as I can with allowing her to buy things for herself with her hard-earned money.  I compliment her as much as I can because at work, she might not hear a lot of good things. I allow her the space she needs to communicate with her family and enjoy joining in myself.

Listen to the podcast for help with what your Filipina wife may be going through in the early years of your marriage.

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