Casting Beyond the Sea
161-Don‘t Take Your Filipina Wife for Granted

161-Don‘t Take Your Filipina Wife for Granted

October 31, 2021

I like to write articles and make videos to help a foreign man look for a Filipina to marry.  I have heard too many stories of men giving up on marriage in the west and a lot from men who found a decent spouse in southeast Asia, myself marrying a Filipina in 2015.  The Philippines can be a place to find a sweet and caring woman to be with for the rest of your life.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea to see if a Filipina might be someone for you to pursue or if you already have one. 

Today’s topic is simply to not take your Filipina for granted. Go ahead and leave a comment if you have a method for this.  Don’t forget to get notifications for upcoming videos. I have videos on Youtube and other places called Love Beyond The Sea and my advice applies to any woman. In other words, don’t take your wife for granted.

I waited 30 years to meet my wife, looking for someone in America yielded no fruit. I married my wife in not even eight weeks. What a relief that was and what a blessing she has been to me, but I can see where a good Filipina can be taken for granted and that shouldn’t be.

It is possible to bask in how good a wife she is (not perfect of course) that she could be taken for granted, as the initial euphoria of meeting her and marrying her wears off.  Those moments are super special, but only happen that initial time. So, what can be done to not take her for granted? I will start with the most painful one for me. Listen to the podcast for ways to avoid taking your Filipina wife for granted.

160-Compromising is Needed in a Fil-am Marriage

160-Compromising is Needed in a Fil-am Marriage

October 27, 2021

Compromise is a necessity for any relationship to last, can you imagine how much more this is likely to be needed in a relationship with a woman from the Philippines who may be thousands of miles away?  Give me a few minutes of your time and I will show you some areas where being able to compromise will help you to be a good husband. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for help for foreign men looking for Filipinas and who want a quality, lasting marriage.  Videos are on Love Beyond The Sea. I think any man looking to marry a Filipina needs to be prepared to make compromises and concessions to this woman because of the many differences the couple will have to deal with, but they can be overcome.

I married my wife on the first time to see her, on day 54, so believe me, I know how important compromising is. What are some things where compromise will be needed? Here are some in no particular order.

Food-If you don’t have a rice cooker, you will be getting one. I regularly ate brown rice before my Filipina wife arrived in America, but basically haven’t eaten it since.  My wife just doesn’t like brown rice.  I can tell her it’s healthier and maybe she even agrees, but it is not what she has been used to all her life in the Philippines. 

There is no use to push the issue with rice. My wife would feel terrible if she were to go two days without rice. Depending on the Filipina, she might want to cook other foods you aren’t accustomed to and might not want to be. My wife makes foods she is familiar with that I don’t eat, but she always has food that I do like available and cooks for us regularly. Be ready to find an Asian Market even if you have to drive for a while. This is important for her to eat some familiar foods, which you would likely do if you were to move to the Philippines.

Oh, don’t throw food out, don’t waste it.  This is a serious crime.

Friends-If you have friends or acquaintances who are women, your Filipina probably won’t be comfortable with them having the same place in your life as before.  She can be fiercely jealous, which I see as a good thing. This observation is from what I have gleaned from others, not so much myself, because I didn’t have women who I had as good friends before.  If you are used to doing anything at all with someone like this, be prepared to change that dynamic for the good of your Filipina.

We used to work at the same place so naturally since I’d been there many years, my wife understands I have worked with many women and some of them are work friends. The good thing about this is Aiza has met them and likes them too.  My little woman is a class act!

Music-I grew up in a home with a musical father and we probably heard our share of music while we were in the womb (I had a twin sister) so I can’t imagine a life with music.  To some men, music isn’t all that important.  They might like it but don’t go crazy over it.  Be prepared if married to a Filipina that she might be listening to a lot of it and much from the Philippines in which you wouldn’t know the words. I think she needs to be able to do anything she previously liked and it will help her acclimate to her new country.

I will have more in the podcast here on Casting Beyond The Sea.

159-Forbidden to Marry by Covid Restrictions

159-Forbidden to Marry by Covid Restrictions

October 26, 2021

I want to talk about a Canadian town requiring covid vaccine proof in order to get married, then say a little more about restriction, prevention and dissuasion of marriage. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea. I want to make marriage great again, but have found a lot of resistance to the idea of marriage, that you can learn about in my podcasts and videos on Love Beyond The Sea.

Governments have come up with some silly restrictions to our rights, but here is one that really gets me upset.

It is appalling this Canadian town requires proof of covid vaccination in order to get married. Tell me what you think. Can this happen in America? Maybe it already is. I am fully vaccinated and so is my wife but if I wasn’t, I would do whatever I had to in order to marry my love beyond the sea.

https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/no-jab-no-joy-canadian-town-requires-vaccine-proof-to-get-married-canadian-town-bars-unvaccinated-from-getting-legally-married-no-jab-no-wedding-canadian-town-requires-vaccine-passport-to-get-ma/  Canadian town requires covid vaccine proof to get married

https://www.studylight.org/commentary/1-timothy/4-3.html Forbidding to marry

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8o9Y7bE7gAFMwlN8y02IO5eqgKqmJNUA Playlist Cringeworthy Things Said to Single Christian Men

 

158-Wise Up! The Type of Husband Every Woman Wants

158-Wise Up! The Type of Husband Every Woman Wants

October 24, 2021

I’m going to run through a list of qualities a Filipina or any woman desires from her husband.  You might already have some of these qualities and they can be developed. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for anything that can help a foreigner have a great relationship with a Filipina or with any woman.  This is channel for men who are serious about that, and I am not sure there are many others. My YouTube channel is Love Beyond The Sea with about 840 videos and the website is lvbts.com.

I married my wife very quickly from many thousands of miles away so I couldn’t rely on familiarity with her, I had to have a strategy to be the kind of man she wants and needs. We have what I consider a crisis of too many single people today. Developing the qualities that I will cover will ensure you are a successful husband.  I will link the article in the description box. These qualities are sought after by all decent women and remember, you don’t have to be the biggest, strongest, best-looking man to be this kind of person-

  1. A wise husband is kind and compassionate (12:10).
  2. A wise husband is honest (29:24).
  3. A wise husband is hard-working (12:11; 27:23-27).
  4. A wise husband is truthful (12:17,19).
  5. A wise husband exercises self-control (12:15; 16:32).
  6. A wise husband has a gentle tongue (12:18; 15:1-2,4).
  7. A wise husband is generous (14:21; 28:27).
  8. A wise husband is willing to be corrected (even by his wife) and listens to counsel (12:15; 15:12,31-32; 28:13; 29:1).
  9. A wise husband is a man of integrity (19:1; 20:7).
  10. A wise husband is faithful and reliable (17:17; 29:3; contrast 25:19; 31:3).
  11. A wise husband is forgiving (19:11).
  12. A wise husband is willing to admit he is wrong (28:13).
  13. A wise husband is humble (15:25,33; 16:18-19; 18:12; 29:23).
  14. A wise husband is not contentious, but a peacemaker (17:1; 18:1,19).
  15. A wise husband has control of his temper (14:29; 16:32; 17:27; 29:11).
  16. A wise husband is a man who avoids excesses (20:1; 23:20-21, 29-35; 31:3-9).
  17. A wise husband has a concern for others, especially the poor and the oppressed (29:7).
  18. A wise husband can keep a confidence (17:9; 26:20).
  19. A wise husband fears God and is obedient to His Word (13:13; 14:26; 16:20; 28:25; 31:30).
  20. A wise husband is not a jealous man (27:4).
  21. A The wise husband has a positive outlook on life (15:15; 17:22; 18:14).

https://bible.org/seriespage/12-qualities-godly-mate    There are 21 qualities of a godly man listed

157-The Problem with the Idea of a Soulmate

157-The Problem with the Idea of a Soulmate

October 22, 2021

This is part 2 of a look at the idea of a soulmate. Is there such a thing?  I have been married for over six years to a woman I married overseas on the first trip there, getting married in less than eight weeks. Do I believe she is my soulmate?

Fewer people are looking to marry these days, and I don’t think it helps matters to have the idea that each of us has a soulmate, that one person that we are meant to marry. I know it may sound cute to hear that but it is a bad notion in my opinion. In part one I started to explain why I think that way and to keep that upload from being too long, I am making part two today.

Does our soulmate complete us?-Me-The Keen.com article brought up the issue of the soulmate idea causing reliance on the other spouse to make us complete. I wanted to interject here that I have a video called “Are you incomplete without a wife?” I do believe that most people are incomplete without a spouse and I will explain in that video. Basically, I believe God created virtually all people with a need for a spouse.  I have another video called “Is there only one Filipina that can be “the one”?”  Mark 10:7-9 declares, “A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.

Me-Here is a very interesting take on the idea of soulmate; a different perspective. This isn’t going to be easy for many to hear, but I want you to listen anyway as I read it. From gotquestions.org-If you are married, the person you are married to is your soul mate.  A husband and wife are “united,” “one flesh,” “no longer two, but one,” and “joined together,” i.e., soul mates.

A marriage may not be as unified and joyous as a couple wishes it to be. A husband and wife may not have the physical, emotional, and spiritual unity that they desire. But even in this instance, the husband and wife are still soul mates. A couple in such a situation needs to work on developing true “soul mate” intimacy. By obeying what the Bible teaches about marriage (Ephesians 5:22-33), a couple can develop the intimacy, love, and commitment that being “one flesh” soul mates entails. If you are married, you are married to your soul mate. No matter how disharmonious a marriage is, God can bring healing, forgiveness, restoration, and true marital love and harmony.

When you hear me say and when my wife hears me say, that together is my favorite place to be, that I don’t know what I’d do without her, that not having her in my life would result in a massive hole in my heart, that is not saying that I consider her my soulmate. Here’s what it does say-It says that I have made her a priority by marrying her and I am going to do everything I possible can for her good. When you hear me say something like that, that is not saying that is going to be easy and that there aren’t going to be some tough times ahead. Neither one of us knows what the future holds for us. One thing I do know is that I am to be committed to my baby. Both of us have shown our “true colors” and we are still committed to ironing out problems as they arise.

Listen to the podcast for more analysis of the idea of a soulmate.

https://youtu.be/O_wOzA2sWEU Are you incomplete without a wife?

https://youtu.be/cKTHbLPEBI4 Is there only one Filipina that can be “the one”?

https://www.gotquestions.org/soul-mates.html

https://www.keen.com/articles/love/is-there-really-such-a-thing-as-a-soul-mate

https://www.marriage.com/blog/relationship/is-there-really-such-thing-as-soulmates/ 

156-Is My Wife My Soulmate? Is there such a thing?

156-Is My Wife My Soulmate? Is there such a thing?

October 18, 2021

Is Aiza my soul mate? You hear that a lot in the Philippines, and it’s what I want to cover today. Subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I want to share with you what I am discovering that helps us have a good marriage, because I want other men to consider finding their soulmate (if there is such a thing) or wife. I am happy that young men view this channel because they owe it to themselves to do what they can to find a good wife.

I think it is especially important for Filipinas to hear this because I think they are often quick to declare a westerner their soulmate.  I’m going to put forward different ideas about a soulmate so I hope you’ll indulge me on this topic. Perhaps you’ve never come out and said you believed in a soulmate, but maybe you are pursuing a mate like you do. I’m going to give you something to think about. You don’t hear much about this topic so that’s why I am making this podcast.

Initially I wasn’t expecting this topic to be too difficult to write about but after doing some research I became more interested in it as it seems the idea is more harm than good. I will be expressing my thoughts and quoting from three sources that I am linking in the description box. What do you think of when you hear the term “soulmate”?

From Keen.com-There are certain familiar paradigms on the landscape of modern love that can trace their origins back to the earliest days of recorded history. The phenomena of “love at first sight” and having a “soul mate” are the stuff of ancient legend. 

In Greek mythology, each person was purportedly half of one larger being, separated at birth by destiny. Life’s quest was to find one’s other half and recombine in order to become a whole entity. While the Greeks may have painted a poetic picture of true love, does it really apply to people now? The probability of anyone believing that each of us is literally “one half” of a single larger human being is slim—however, many of us do like to think we are part of a perfect pair that meshes on every level—spiritual, physical, and emotional. 

Today, whether or not one believes in the concept of having a soul mate depends on one’s definition of the term, so just what is a soul mate? Is it someone to whom you are immediately drawn? Is it someone you feel that you absolutely cannot live without? Or, is it someone you can communicate with freely, with whom you feel a deep level of comfort, connection and trust, and that nearly every moment you spend with this person offers happiness and contentment?

Listen to the podcast today for some interesting perspective on the idea of a soulmate.

https://youtu.be/O_wOzA2sWEU Are you incomplete without a wife?

https://youtu.be/cKTHbLPEBI4 Is there only one Filipina that can be “the one”?

https://www.gotquestions.org/soul-mates.html

https://www.keen.com/articles/love/is-there-really-such-a-thing-as-a-soul-mate

https://www.marriage.com/blog/relationship/is-there-really-such-thing-as-soulmates/

 

 

155-Woman Makes 17-Page Contract for Tinder Boyfriend

155-Woman Makes 17-Page Contract for Tinder Boyfriend

October 13, 2021

Girlfriend draws up 17-page contract for Tinder flame after dating two weeks

From the NY Post-

Annie Wright, 21, drafted a 17-page relationship contract after dating her now-boyfriend for only two weeks.

While it’s no 18-page letter to Ross Geller, Wright’s contract to her boyfriend Michael Head, 23, was just as extensive. The contract came with four main objectives: honesty, communication, awareness of partner’s needs and clarity and alignment in their intentions.  “I made the idea as a joke, then he said, ‘No, seriously. We can do that and talk about it,’ ” Wright, an Atlanta, Georgia, native, told Kennedy News.

The couple met last October on Tinder after Wright left a toxic relationship, and she was determined to make this relationship with Head, a law student, work out. 

“At the time, I had braces in college, and I was very embarrassed,” said Wright. “It was also pandemic time. But I got to the point where I was like ‘screw it — I’m going on dates with guys and don’t care anymore.’ I matched with almost anybody on Tinder and would tell my matches, ‘I’m going on a walk with my dog at 2 p.m. today — are you free?’ It was a fluke that I met him. I was going on three Tinder dates a week to go out there and meet people.”

Thankfully when Wright met Head they instantly clicked. “He was like, ‘I want us to be boyfriend and girlfriend,’ ” Wright said. “In order to be ready for that, we had to lay some serious ground rules.”

Listen to the podcast to learn about the rules she has drawn up.

https://nypost.com/2021/09/10/girlfriend-draws-up-17-page-contract-for-tinder-flame/

154-What Places Are Special to You and Your Filipina?

154-What Places Are Special to You and Your Filipina?

October 11, 2021

Something you want to establish with your Filipina is discovering some places you can go to now and then that have special meaning to both of you.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea if you are in a relationship with a Filipina or are on the fence, considering a relationship with a woman from the Philippines. I have been married since May of 2015 and can help you with the best thing in the world-marriage.

It is likely the two of you won’t have much in common considering the distance and often, the age gap, when you get married. That’s alright because by talking about what each of you like to do, the other one can be involved with that and might find that it can be a mutually satisfying experience. My wife and I have gone to some plays that she likes to see, which actually was enjoyable to me, and she has gone to some sporting events, but another thing to share with each other are certain places that have taken on special meaning. Of course, this will require a certain amount of time to accomplish as you spend time with each other and it might not start out as being something you will look back on as having special significance, yet it might.

Listen to the podcast for some of our favorite places.

153-7 Perspectives of Your Filipina You Need to Know

153-7 Perspectives of Your Filipina You Need to Know

October 3, 2021

I want to talk about something I think will be of great help to anyone who desires to pursue a Filipina or who is married to one. I get the idea this is something that needs to be talked about more.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for helpful perspectives on foreigner and Filipina relationships and today, perspective is what it’s all about. Videos are on Love Beyond The Sea, and my website is lvbts.com.

In fact, this might be the most important thing the man can do, and it isn’t back breaking work, just simply to see your relationship with her from her perspective.  In order to do that, you’ll need to be familiar with the Philippines in general and talk to your Filipina about certain things. For those who are serious about marrying a Filipina, I want you to listen to all of this.

I have talked to people or read their comments and have gotten the impression they are merely going to marry a young woman from the Philippines, rescuing her from the poverty she might be surrounded by, whisk her off to his country and that in itself will provide for her a great life.  If only it were that simple. Granted she might have grown up poor, she might not have met a good man yet, she’d like to make something of her college degree and want to help her family, however, it is a major leap from that to she will marry a foreigner and all will be well. Here are my 7 perspectives of your Filipina you’ll need to know.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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