Casting Beyond the Sea
137-Why I don’t Complain about my Filipina Wife

137-Why I don’t Complain about my Filipina Wife

July 28, 2021

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain, and most do.”-Dale Carnegie. Is complaining foolish? Yes, if you think it’s going to be of any help. If you are interested in marrying a Filipina or already have, learning to avoid complaining will go a long way to help the success of your relationship. That’s what Casting Beyond The Sea is about.

Complaining is expressing dissatisfaction and finding faults, and not a good strategy with the Filipina you are wanting to show you are the type of man she should marry. Now, mentioning them in the right way is different than complaining.

“How to communicate with your Filipina wife” is a live stream I will link for you on my YT channel.

While complaining is a way to communicate, it isn’t a good one.  The Bible is against complaining.  I complain too much.  No one likes a complainer. When a man is with a woman, especially one from another culture, there is potential for complaining because of so many differences.  I think it is helpful to remember that differences in each other should make for a better, more well-rounded relationship.  There is a saying about compatibility that if the two of you are the same then one of you isn’t needed.  Commonality is good, especially in areas that really matter, but I don’t think you want everything in common either.  What possibly could a foreign man complain about with a beautiful Filipina? Listen to the podcast to find out.

https://youtu.be/biyiMCDaPew How to Communicate with Your Filipina Wife

 

136-Arranged Marriage is Not All Bad but here are some Cons to it

136-Arranged Marriage is Not All Bad but here are some Cons to it

July 27, 2021

If you were struggling to find a wife, how do you feel about an arranged marriage? Would it matter who helped select that woman? If you trusted someone to arrange your marriage would you do it? How important would it be to you to know what she looked like? Do you know someone who you could trust to make a good selection for you?

Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea, a channel rated 4M for Mature Marriage Minded Men. I needed to break this topic into two podcasts-one today with the cons and a previous one covered the pros. Videos can be seen on Love Beyond The Sea and my website is called lvbts.com.

After working on this topic, this will need to be filed in the Controversial Collection Playlist on my YouTube channel. I will never be Mr. Popular because I only care about telling the world what they need to know, not what they want to hear.

In the last podcast I covered 7 pros to an arranged marriage, today are 11 cons, that come from an article I will link for you in the description box. As someone who labored for 30, count ‘em 30 years to find a wife, I wonder what I would have thought at the idea of an arranged marriage all those years ago. I might have said yes to the idea if I was guaranteed some level of sexual interest in a woman, but all in all, it comes down to leading, being compassionate, being unselfish, being forgiving, and things like that, for the man regardless of how the marriage was enacted.

After doing the last video, I gained a little respect for the idea of an arranged marriage. Let’s see how I feel after these 11 cons.

https://connectusfund.org/18-arranged-marriage-pros-and-cons Article for today’s podcast

https://youtu.be/LTF-X5DHFd4 Marriage Skills Matter More than Knowing the Filipina you Marry

https://youtu.be/RFMZZF069_Q How Long Does it Take to Know a Filipina Part 1

https://youtu.be/I5pbQKJeO6k How Long Does it Take to Know a Filipina Part 2

135-Arranged Marriage is Not All Bad-Pros of Arranged Marriage

135-Arranged Marriage is Not All Bad-Pros of Arranged Marriage

July 21, 2021

If you were struggling to find a wife, how would you feel about an arranged marriage? Would it matter who helped select that woman? If you trusted someone to arrange your marriage would you do it? How important would it be to you to know what she looked like? Do you know someone who you could trust to make a good selection for you?

Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea, a channel rated 4M for Mature Marriage Minded Men. I will need to break this topic into two podcasts-one today with the pros and another one for the cons. Videos are available on Love Beyond The Sea and my website is called lvbts.com. 

While this topic is arranged marriage, in writing this, once again I know I have said some things that will be quite unpopular but that’s tough. Marriage is tough work sometimes. This two-part podcast on arranged marriages will teach you more than arranged marriage itself, it will help show you how that relationship CAN work and if an arranged marriage can work, the traditional kind has no excuse.

https://connectusfund.org/18-arranged-marriage-pros-and-cons Article for today’s podcast

https://marriagemissions.com/respectfully-leaving-your-father-and-mother/#:~:text=The%20Bible%20tells%20us%20we%20are%20to%20leave,a%20family%20there%20are%20two%20types%20of%20relationships. Explanation of Genesis 2:24

https://youtu.be/LTF-X5DHFd4 Marriage Skills Matter More than Knowing the Filipina you Marry

https://youtu.be/RFMZZF069_Q How Long Does it Take to Know a Filipina Part 1

https://youtu.be/I5pbQKJeO6k How Long Does it Take to Know a Filipina Part 2

134-Do You Know Your Filipina Wife’s Bucket List?

134-Do You Know Your Filipina Wife’s Bucket List?

July 15, 2021

I have quite a few videos about getting to know your Filipina, about communicating with her. Unless you have known each other a very long time, there are some things we don’t know about each other because we haven’t asked. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I talk about what I’ve learned being married to a Filipina for over six years. I want to help men to be able to have a good relationship with a Filipina, hopefully leading to marriage. By bucket list I mean the top things she’d like to do in her lifetime.

Since I never had a bucket list myself, I don’t think about life in those terms. Nevertheless, as I get older, I can see most of my life in the rear-view mirror and my priorities have changed to keep up. Being married to a Filipina a lot younger than I am makes me want to help her do the things and accomplish the things she has wanted to do and might have thought she’d never have the chance to.

An early indication she had things she desired to do was when I asked her if there was anywhere in the world she’d like to visit and could, where would that be?  She quickly replied “Paris”.  She wasn’t expecting me to take her there and I wasn’t thinking about doing it, but after a couple of weeks I thought maybe that would be a good idea. I am very glad I did because it was such a good experience.  I learned a lot about history, saw amazing paintings and sculptures and saw many castles. We went to the Eiffel Tower about four times and saw the Mona Lisa.  I don’t know about her but I want to do it again!

I hope she wants to visit many of the islands in the Philippines like I do, but I am more concerned about her bucket list. She says she likes to travel but you can only do so much of that when one or both of you are working.  At 53, seemingly the only thing on my bucket list was to get married. My first choice would have been a Filipina. She has made me a very content and satisfied man.  I love just being with her every day; together is my favorite place to be.

If you were to ask your Filipina what she would like to accomplish or experience before she dies, you might be surprised by what she says.  You might even be able to work on it together which would strengthen your marriage. It might be retiring in the Philippines, it could be a lot of different things, each woman has grown up with different experiences and have different interests. Now that my wife is a U.S. citizen, she has the option to live in both countries.

Listen to the podcast for more on Casting Beyond The Sea. Videos are on Love Beyond The Sea.

133 Is it Wrong to Serve Your Wife? Does this make You a Simp?

133 Is it Wrong to Serve Your Wife? Does this make You a Simp?

July 12, 2021

What do you think about the idea of serving others? Do you think getting help is their problem? Do you worry more about yourself?  Some may think it is beneath them to reach out and serve another person and may even consider a man a simp to gulp, serve his wife, but I am going to show you today why that’s exactly what he must do. Subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for higher Fil-West education so if you going to marry a woman from the Philippines we will go deep into the heart of many matters. I want to make marriage great again and part of marriage is service.

Would my Filipina say that I am serving her? How can I give of myself to make her life better? What are her needs? What are small ways I can show her I will serve her? Obviously, I can serve her with finances, I can teach her spiritually, I can give her emotional support, I can help her achieve goals that are important to her. In short, I serve her by meeting all the needs I can. If you say “but what about me?”, I think that is answered by the way you first serve your wife. She will follow your lead. As the leader, you make the first move, you are the example. Do that well, she will respond.

Romans 12:1 I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship---Our whole lives are a living sacrifice to God, and that includes service to others.

Galatians 5:13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.---This certainly includes your wife, so prepare yourself now for a life of service, which is a good thing, or else we wouldn’t be told to do it.

I will cover more Bible verses in the podcast, here on Casting Beyond The Sea. Videos are on Love Beyond The Sea.

132-Romantic Love Doesn’t Need to be Supercharged

132-Romantic Love Doesn’t Need to be Supercharged

July 9, 2021

Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I talk about many things related to marriage. This is a 4M channel: for Mature Marriage-Minded Men. Today I want to talk about if an older couple can still have romantic love. Is good sex just for the young? Make no mistake about it, when you marry, sex is an obligation. It is also a great pleasure and gift a husband and wife give to each other. Here is a comment from the article that I will link in the description box.

“Everlasting and sexually supercharged romantic love is a myth. It exists only for Disney princesses.”

Of course, no one is supercharged romantically for the duration of their life or functionally. Why not get the getting while the getting is good? That’s one of the benefits of marriage. Why even bring up that “everlasting and sexually supercharged romantic love is a myth”? Yes, it is eventually. Everything in the physical realm for all of us is in decline. Supercharged romantic love is a myth in general but the younger you are, the more supercharged it may be. Isn’t that a sensible time to get married?

Ahh you may say, what do 18-year-olds know about love and responsibility? Probably not much, they can be taught that and they can pick that up in marriage, valid marriage. If all of us waited until we knew everything and were so-called perfectly prepared for something, we might run out of time. I hadn’t had a relationship in forever. I married my wife in less than eight weeks and committed before even meeting her in person. We have been married for six years. I knew some things, but still had to have a place to put to use what I learned about marriage, which was marriage.

Listen to the podcast for more thoughts on supercharged romance.

https://www.rt.com/op-ed/525655-sex-free-marriage-woke/ Article to look at today

131 Adultery and Other Marriage Corruptions

131 Adultery and Other Marriage Corruptions

July 5, 2021

I’m going to be hitting some topics from a longer upload I made in response to an article called Sex-free marriage anyone? Welcome to the new trend for the wokeys: marrying your best friend. Would you want to sign up for that? I don’t think this is marriage at all. Evidently some people think they can improve on God’s idea of marriage; that it is somehow deficient, but marriage as the Bible describes it, is the grace of life, the very best.  Today I want to continue to talk about sexless marriage or more appropriately sex free marriage. I have been making the case that when you marry, sex is an obligation. It is also a great pleasure and gift a husband and wife give to each other. Here is a comment from the article that I will link in the description box.

“You can also have sex with whoever the hell you like whenever the hell you feel like it. Anyone, that is, except your chosen spouse – that’s not allowed.”

This is what you get when people try to define what marriage is and what its roles are; something that will end in disaster. The word spouse doesn’t even fit here as that is not how you treat a spouse. This is just insanity. This sounds like something you’d find in the Satanic bible to me. Listen for something to think about when it comes to having sex with someone that is not your spouse as suggested in that comment.

https://www.rt.com/op-ed/525655-sex-free-marriage-woke/ Article to look at today

Source: https://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Adultery

130-A Sexless Marriage is Inevitable Get it While the Getting is Good

130-A Sexless Marriage is Inevitable Get it While the Getting is Good

July 1, 2021

I’m going to be hitting some topics from a longer upload I made in response to an article called Sex-free marriage anyone? Welcome to the new trend for the wokeys: marrying your best friend. Would you want to sign up for that? I don’t think this is marriage at all. People have been trying to modify or make an idea of marriage that suits them even though it goes against the grain of what has been the norm for a very long time, say the beginning of time. Today I want to continue to talk about sexless marriage but not intentional sexless marriage. Make no mistake about it, when you marry, sex is an obligation. It is also a great pleasure and gift a husband and wife give to each other. We should also be mindful that eventually “the thrill is gone”, do you agree?

Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I talk not just about marriage practically but these days I feel the need to talk about just what marriage is. I will have some links to recent videos I’ve done to that end. I want to make marriage great again. Here is a statement from an article you can find in the description box-

“Call me a cynic, but don't most marriages end up sexless anyway? Passion fades, adoration warps into irritation and, just give it seven years or so, a trip to a divorce lawyer is pretty much inevitable.” 

 The author has a rather depressing view of marriage. You know what, eventually, if we stay married and live long enough, neither person will desire it much compared to their youth (another reason to get married as fast as you can). But I get the impression the author is assuming that even before those days come, couples will be so combative that neither will even desire sex with the other. Maybe they are thinking about what happens after childbirth and children to be responsible for.

As for most marriage ending up sexless, desire and ability does wane with age. That is something people should factor in when thinking about how long they are willing to wait to be married.

Listen to the podcast for my thoughts on the importance of experiencing meaningful sex (marriage) while you still can.

https://www.rt.com/op-ed/525655-sex-free-marriage-woke/ Article to look at today

https://healthresearchfunding.org/sexless-marriage-statistics/

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