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Negatives of living in the Philippines, what do you Expect?

Negatives of living in the Philippines, what do you Expect?

November 30, 2020

Is it always a wonderful experience living in the Philippines? Some people think so, some people think those people are not being realistic, and others can’t take it and leave. I think that expectations have a lot to do with it. Subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea and help men find love overseas and learn how to live with their wife. That’s really what this channel is about. 

I have an interest in what it would be like to live in the Philippines because we have a retirement home there. I was in the Philippines in 2015 to marry my wife, we returned in 2016, went there in 2018 and again in late 2019. It’s not a ton of experience but it was over four different times of year and I think I have seen enough of these negatives to know if I could handle it or not. The comment made in the blog I referenced made me want to address this. In my videos and podcasts I try to not be a sunshine pumper, so I should take a similar approach to certain conditions in the Philippines.

It was brought to my attention that the vast majority of men who go to the Philippines in search of gold of some kind, don’t last too long. They might seek a relationship because they’ve seen other men do this on the internet, and for a lower cost of living and combine the two for a great life. What would make them give up? Something did. I will talk about some of the big ones in this podcast.

Can a Young Man Find Love Beyond the Sea? Should he try to?

Can a Young Man Find Love Beyond the Sea? Should he try to?

November 27, 2020

When I joined Christian Filipina and began to look at many profiles of women in my age preference, I realized that a majority wanted an older man.  Many of them had an age bracket that started five years older than they were up to as much as 80 years old.  I believe that they were serious about that. 

I never wondered what a younger guy would think because I assumed most of the men were older men like myself.  However, I have come across some men in their twenties who seem interested in a woman from the Philippines and it got me thinking what selling points they would have.

I will list a few here and have the Philippines Vlogging Community Post of the Day.

LIVE-Submission to her Husband-a Filipina’s Challenge

LIVE-Submission to her Husband-a Filipina’s Challenge

November 25, 2020

After listening to this, you should know what you need to know about this divisive and misunderstood concept. I want to bring to light topics that can help a man want to pursue a Filipina for marriage, and basically how to be the kind of husband she needs.

I will endeavor to present what biblical submission means and doesn’t mean, where the concept came from, the best way to have a submissive wife, and very importantly, how a lack of submission affects a marriage, and what to do when the submission isn’t happening. I will take this seriously, and I recommend listening to all of this so there is no misunderstanding because I realize this is an unnecessarily hot topic.

Submission is nothing new. We must submit to the police, to government, children must submit to their parents, workers must submit to their employers. The Bible says the head of every man is Christ and the head of the woman is the man, and the head of Christ is God.

Even Christ submitted to his Father, remember how he asked if there was a way for the cup of judgement to pass from him, if there was some other way?  Then he said, “not my will, but yours”, then continued on to bear the entire weight of all the sin in the history of mankind, in his perfect and sinless being.

Being obligated to submit doesn’t mean one is inferior to the other, just that there must be a way to have an ordered society, workplace, marriage, anything.

Before we launch into this topic of a wife’s submission to her husband, I will note that although she is to be obedient or submissive to her husband “in everything”, that is not the case if her husband asks her to sin, to do something she knows is wrong. The head of the woman is the man, but the head of the man is God, and if the wife is told to do something sinful by her husband, she is to disobey him, because he is not submitting to his authority. He is to ask her to do things that are in line with God’s will for them, not opposed to it.

You’re going to read a lot here that might bother you, or it might be music to your ears, but it will be the truth, and personally, I don’t see why, if understood properly, this idea of submission and even sacrifice of the husband is all that difficult to accept.

Submission to her Husband-a Filipina’s Challenge

Submission to her Husband-a Filipina’s Challenge

November 24, 2020

Join me for a LIVE podcast this Wednesday November 25 at 4 pm Central Time USA.

"Submission to her Husband-a Filipina’s Challenge"

After listening to this, you should know what you need to know about this divisive and misunderstood concept. I want to bring to light topics that can help a man want to pursue a Filipina for marriage, and basically how to be the kind of husband she needs.

I will endeavor to present what biblical submission means and doesn’t mean, where the concept came from, the best way to have a submissive wife, and very importantly, how a lack of submission affects a marriage, and what to do when the submission isn’t happening. I will take this seriously, and I recommend listening to all of this so there is no misunderstanding because I realize this is an unnecessarily hot topic.

Is Marriage “stagnant and strict”? Thoughts from the Carl Lentz debacle

Is Marriage “stagnant and strict”? Thoughts from the Carl Lentz debacle

November 23, 2020

I will read from an article about the particulars of this situation. Today I want to mostly focus on Ranin Karim’s comment that Carl Lentz might be having a midlife crisis and going on a “self-sabotaging journey” by way of getting into a “fiery relationship” after spending so much of his life in a “stagnant relationship” and a “strict place.” She is the mistress involved in this situation. I will also talk about adultery, which I haven’t done much on this channel.

This podcast is going to be different but it does deal with marriage, something I have said is the best thing there is, but it can’t survive making poor decisions. To Lentz’s credit he admitted his moral failure and at the end of this video I will read all of it. Infidelity is a very serious offense against your spouse and yourself and your spouse is not obligated to remain married to you; that is serious, very serious. For his sake I hope he isn’t ruined. While the high cost of infidelity is part of this sad story, and I will talk more about that, I also want to talk about the comment the mistress made.

LIVE-How to Praise Your Filipina Wife

LIVE-How to Praise Your Filipina Wife

November 20, 2020

Today's podcast was live. 

I will run through specific Bible verses and talk about how to make application to being married; actions to look for that are praiseworthy. It is easier to criticize than praise but in this podcast I will show you how to praise your wife. This is something you want to be good at.

Tell her how much you appreciate her. Tell her you’re glad you found her.

Tell her you won the lottery with her. Tell her she meets your needs. Tell her you need her. How many nights I went to bed miserable about being alone and since I married my wife I haven’t even thought about those days.

Recognize the things she does for you, big and small. It could be how she decorates, that she buys food and cooks food, how she is there to listen to you.

Tell her when her attitude is good, when she is strong, when she is caring. Comment on her work ethic. This builds her up.

Let her know you appreciate that she is frugal and resourceful. Tell her you appreciate her wisdom. She is going to have different perspectives than you will. Ask for her opinion.

Much more in the podcast.

LIVE-How to Praise Your Filipina Wife

LIVE-How to Praise Your Filipina Wife

November 19, 2020

Friday's podcast will be LIVE so you have an opportunity to call in or leave a chat comment. We can talk about anything that has to do with marriage and dating a woman from the Philippines.

Friday November 20 at 4 pm Central Time USA I will run through specific Bible verses and talk about how to make application to being married; actions to look for that are praiseworthy. It is easier to criticize than praise but in this podcast I will show you how to praise your wife. This is something you want to be good at.

https://www.podbean.com/lsw/XV8ASaNu5K?lsid=67P8KTzDun3  Share link for live podcast

Escaping to the Philippines or Starting Over?

Escaping to the Philippines or Starting Over?

November 18, 2020

I think it is best to be running towards something rather than running away from something, and I do agree that many westerners are leaving some unfinished business behind, especially with relationships. It would of course be best to fix or resolve any relationship issues before going to another country and jumping into a relationship right away.

While on the one hand, it is relatively simple to get into a relationship with a woman from the Philippines, that does not mean that problems that were present in the past will not happen with a Filipina. If we happen to be a big part of the problem, going a million miles a way isn’t going to solve anything. I know the person who made this comment was singling out particular expats, but the comments could relate to many men who try for a new start in the Philippines.

I think the comment had some salient observations that could apply in other countries too. My take home from this podcast is to express that while I endorse looking at another country as a place to find a wife, I also want you to have your act together before you do. No, you don’t have to be perfect of course, but you should be sure to do a reality check on your personal situation. A Filipina wants to get married. I think they should give themselves away to men who are serious about getting married.

I know it is possible to have rose-colored glasses about the Philippines, especially when it comes to relationships. Charles mentioned some of the common nuisances that will need to be adjusted to, but he also can see that many guys escape to the Philippines, but what happens is we may just be bringing with us the same issues that may plague us there. Just something to think about.

George will read this Philippines Vlogging Community Post of the Day, which is the subject of today's podcast.

Useful Activity and Social Media Transparency in Marriage to a Filipina

Useful Activity and Social Media Transparency in Marriage to a Filipina

November 16, 2020

When your wife or fiancé just flew halfway across the world, she will likely have a severe case of homesickness.  That’s one aspect of leaving home, but another is usefulness.  The last thing you both need is for her to be alone with a lot on her mind and missing home. Here are some things to keep in mind:

  1. Helping her find a job is maybe the best way to keep her from being bored. I helped my wife find a job through a temporary agency, now she is full-time.  It also helps her earn money for herself and her family.
  2. Time with friends, although it may take a while to have some.
  3. I thought about volunteering at church but she thought work would be better.
  4. If you married the main breadwinner of the family, she likely won’t want to sit at home while you’re at work.
  5. Don’t make the mistake of thinking she will be fine simply because she is not in the Philippines.

I will also talk about having social media transparency in your marriage with a woman from the Philippines.

LIVE-How to Attract the Right Kind of Filipina

LIVE-How to Attract the Right Kind of Filipina

November 13, 2020

Join me for a live podcast as I will talk about attracting the right kind of Filipina, or any woman that would make you a suitable wife. I will talk about how to present yourself in a profile on a dating site when you are serious about getting married. You certainly don't want to attract the wrong type of woman.

Comments were made about whether or not physical attraction is important, the problem of lust, being unequally yoked and more. Don't play around with your feelings or love. Be focused on the right things and go for it! You may end up finding your love beyond the sea!

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