Casting Beyond the Sea
The Right Way to Lay the Foundation in your Early Days Together

The Right Way to Lay the Foundation in your Early Days Together

October 12, 2020

Reflections on Aiza being in America the first three months back in 2016. I made these notations sometime around April of 2016. We met on March 17 2015 online, and got married on May 10 of that year. Our visa wait was eight months. Relatively speaking, that was a long time ago and being together for good was new. This early stage is what I want to reminisce about for the purpose of helping you to get off to a good start in your relationship with a woman from the Philippines.

Getting off to a rough start is also what I want to avoid. I can look back on this now and see how important it was to do certain things early on.

The Best Way to Deal With Tampo (Filipina silent treatment)

The Best Way to Deal With Tampo (Filipina silent treatment)

October 9, 2020

In this podcast I will define tampo and its purpose, pull together some information from Wikipedia, the Asawa Guide to Fil-West Relationships and my own experience, and conclude with a hypothetical tampo scenario with how to handle it the best way.  I think it would be good to keep this handy because if you are interacting with a Filipina, this is very likely to happen and how the foreign man responds to it can break off the relationship unnecessarily or allow it to grow.

Here is what it can look like:

  • resisting expressions of affection
  • not talking to the person concerned, or to people in general
  • being unusually quiet
  • locking oneself in his or her own room
  • refusing to eat
  • not joining friends in group activities
  • withdrawing from the group
  • simply keeping to oneself.
A Penny Saved is a Penny Earned-The Resourceful Filipina

A Penny Saved is a Penny Earned-The Resourceful Filipina

October 8, 2020

This is a podcast about a quality you should look for in a Filipina to marry; the quality of being resourceful. I will give some examples of how my Filipina wife has been resourceful and helped us to save money. She is not wasteful. I will talk about some concerns you might have about how a woman from the Philippines might handle making more money than she has before.

LIVE-Many Ways to keep your Filipina from Becoming “Americanized”

LIVE-Many Ways to keep your Filipina from Becoming “Americanized”

October 7, 2020

You should start by marrying a Filipina who is less likely to become Americanized in the first place, but once she is here, it is up to you to make sure that you treat her a certain way, which will ensure she wants to stay the way she is. If you hear people tell you to never bring a Filipina to your own country, do not listen to them. Most if not all of them are not on good terms with a Filipina. 

I will describe many ways to help your Filipina wife realize she has a husband who appreciates her for the qualities that attracted him to her. A Filipina definitely can be content to stay in America and retain the values she arrived with. In this podcast I want to share many ways I try to employ in my marriage to a Filipina for over five years.

Working in America, my Filipina Wife’s Experiences

Working in America, my Filipina Wife’s Experiences

October 6, 2020

Today I will talk about working in America, working abroad. Why? Because if you marry a Filipina, she will almost certainly want to have her own job. She will want to show you she doesn’t need you to provide for her family, and she will want to have money for herself too. A big conversation you will need to have with her is how your money and her money will be broken down-how it will be utilized. I will also detail some of her work experiences in the United States.

4  Down to Earth Ways to Have a Heavenly Marriage

4 Down to Earth Ways to Have a Heavenly Marriage

October 5, 2020

1 Peter 3:7 (ESV)

7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

Am I asking questions to get to know her better?  Do I remember the things she tells me about herself?  Do I give her my full attention when messaging or using a web cam? Do I always consider the differences between the Philippines and where I am from? Do I consider her body language?

3 Down to Earth Ways to Have a Heavenly Marriage

3 Down to Earth Ways to Have a Heavenly Marriage

October 2, 2020

Ephesians 4:1-3(ESV)

4 I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, 2 with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, 3 eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

Am I gentle towards her? Are we working through issues with togetherness?  Do we go to bed angry or do we try to smooth things out first? Am I teaching her the Bible? Am I often praying for her?  Does she know that I am as concerned about her spiritual health as I am her physical health?  Mental, emotional, etc...? Do we talk about our spiritual commonalities? Do I ask her what she learned at church or what she is reading?

 

2 Down to Earth Ways to Have a Heavenly Marriage

2 Down to Earth Ways to Have a Heavenly Marriage

October 1, 2020

This podcast is about 1 Corinthians 13 because it very simply describes that often confounding, nebulous idea of love. Many people want to be in love, but don't realize how challenging love really is. I want you to have a working knowledge of what love is. The best way to receive love is to start loving. Today I will show many examples of how this part of scripture can be lived out in a marriage.

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